Monday, May 5, 2008

An early telephone call...


The late Roger Anthony
Born on 19th June 1972 ~ Died on 4th December 2007

I was awake by an early telephone rang around 4.00 am… Knock!!! Knock!!!...someone knocking on our room door and I heard my MIL says “Rozie tolifon nu” (Rozie call for you)…I’m sure everybody will immediately think an emergency case with an early telephone call right... and so do I. It’s seems that I got an electrical short on my body and immediately rise and went and answered the call… here goes the conversation…

Me : Hello…
Fiffy : Kak! abang Roger meninggal dunia…
(Sister! brother Roger had passed away...)
Me : Hah!!! kau gila kah!
(Huh!! are you crazy!)
Fiffy : Iya Kak… (Sister, this is true...)
Me : Kau di mana? (Where are you?)
Fiffy : Di hospital. (At the hospital)
Me : (Still blurr) apa kau buat sana?
(What are you doing there?)
Fiffy : Kak!!! abang Roger meninggal suda, dia accident motor.
(Sister!!! brother Roger had passed away, he met a motorcycle accident)
Me : Silence + confuse + thinking…how come? I just met him yesterday morning…?
Fiffy : Kak!!! kami di hospital! (Sister!!! we are at the hospital!)
my cousin trying to awake me...
Me : Siapa kawan kau di sana? (Whow are you with?)
Fiffy : Nina (my mother) sama Mummy (Your mother and my mummy)
Me : Kasih cakap saya sama Nina gia! (Let me talk to my mother!)
Fiffy : Nina sama Mummy di dalam bilik Doktor.
(Your mother and my mummy are inside the Doctor's room)
Me : (I still can’t believe it) Fi, apa macam muka abang Roger?
(Fi, how does brother Roger's look?)
Fiffy : Tidak tau, saya pun belum nampak lagi…
(No idea, I haven't seen yet...)
Me : Bah, nanti saya datang sana…
(Ok, I'll be coming later...)

Soon as I put down the phone, my hubby and MIL asked me;-
Hubby + MIL : Siapa tu Zie? + Isai ie Zie? (Who is that Zie?)
Me : Si Fiffy, dia kasi tau Roger sudah meninggal.
(It's Fiffy, she informed that Roger had passed away)
Hubby + MIL : Hahhh!!! + Odoi dogo!!!
(Huhhh!!! + Oh no!!! *They were shocked)
Hubby : Macam mana juga dia passed away sedangkan baru kemarin kita jumpa dia.
(How come he'd passed away as we'd just met him yesterday)
Me : Itu lah, saya pun hairan, tapi Fiffy cakap dia accident motor…
(That is why, I'm wondering too but Fiffy said he met a motorcycle accident...)
MIL : Odoiiii!!!…osisian gia…siou noh…
(ohhh pitty...so sorry...)

I just couldn’t make up my mind to go to the hospital immediately or later. But hubby said we go after sending the kids to nursery. At 6.30am, we get ready everything and send our kids to nursery and went straight to my parents house. Too many things in my head, I still can’t believe it. When I reached my parents house, everybody in tears, especially my niece BB (Avril), whereas my nephew Boboy (Brady) seems cool but I can see sadness in his face as he is the most closest to the daddy. Seeing them in tears, I myself couldn’t stand my tears dropping…and says…

Me : BB, Boboy kenapa kamu nangis? (BB, Boboy why are you crying?)
*just to see if they know what exactly happening...
Niece : Daddy tiada suda (Daddy no longer with us)
*BB almost can’t say the words.
Nephew: (Just quiet but look sad. No tears at all)
Me : Ada apa-apa kah Daddy kamu cakap semasa dia bawa kamu jalan kemarin?
(Did your daddy says anything while take you both out yesterday?)
Niece : (While crying) Daddy bawa kami pigi KFC di Lido, lepas tu dia bawa kami singgah di tempat dia kerja. Daddy janji mau beli kami baju Christmas, kasut baru, beg baru…
(Daddy take us to KFC in Lido, thereafter drop by to his work place. Daddy promise to buy us new clothes for Christmas, new shoes, new bags...)
Nephew: Daddy janji mau beli saya basikal. Daddy bawa lagi kami pigi di sekolah bayar school fees.
(Daddy promise to buy me a bicycle. Daddy also brought us to our school to pay our school fees.)

While waiting for my mother and auntie Ilsie came back from QEH… my father told us how he got the bad news at very early morning…his mobile rang at around 3.00am…

Father : Hello…
QEH : Ini Encik Anthony Tuyok, bapa kepada Roger Anthony kah?
(Is this Mr Anthony Tuyok, Roger Anthony's father?)
Father : Ya, saya…(Yes, I am)
QEH : Saya buat panggilan dari QEH, diminta Encik datang ke hospital Bahagian Kecemasan dengan segera kerana anak Encik kemalangan motor dan keadaannya agak kritikal…
(I'm calling from QEH, you are required to come to the hospital to Emergency Section as soon as possible as your son met a motorcycle accident and he is in critical condition...)
Father : Shocked…?*&?^%?#@?...

Finally, around 10.30 am my mother and Aunt Ilsie came back from QEH, I can see sadness in them especially my mother and that’s enough to tell me that I have to face the fact (at this time it's really hard for me to breath, my whole body feel very weak, shivering and...ohhh its really unexplained how I felt that time... what I can tell to myself is to be strong!!!). According to my mother the Doctors and nurses had done their very best to safe my brother but too bad it doesn’t works due to badly internal bleeding. My brother had a very bad chest and head injuries which caused him pollytrauma dead. He was pronounced dead on 4th December 2007 (Tuesday) at 3.45am.

Due to postmortem need to be carried out, the body only arrived at my grandma’s house at 1.30pm. And ohhhh…..this time is for real…everybody crying loud and we clearly hear these words from his left behind daughter and son.

“Daddy jangan kasih tinggal kami”
(Daddy don't leave us)
“Daddy sorry lah, kami nakal, tidak dengar cakap”
(Daddy sorry for being naughty and not listening to your advises)
“Daddy bangun bah”
(Daddy wake up please)

Ohhhh….so heart breaking...

May his soul rest in peace...

6 comments:

Cay said...

When reading this ..I can feel the pain you and ur family been thru cos I oso been tht situation when my uncle passed away long time back and knowing roger make me feel very sad too ..

Rozz_Lea Rozie Anthony said...

Its hard for the whole family to accept the fact but soon or later we have to face it and GOD is great, he must have a room with him by now...

Carolyn said...

it makes me sad thinking about what happen that day, hope the 2 kids will find comfort with you all esp when they miss their daddy around

Rozz_Lea Rozie Anthony said...

They are very happy with my parents. Last 2 month their mum come and visit them but they just don't bother her...

creatut said...

i still remember the day you sent me a message that your dear Roger has passed away..its wake me up from my sleep and i don't believe what i have just read. I jump out of my bed and rang Laura early in the morning to ask her about that and shes still in tears and i nearly cant talk coz im going to cry also..Roger looks handsome here and miss to see him smiling. May God give him eternal life at his new world..

Rozz_Lea Rozie Anthony said...

Hi Ann, this pic taken during Alyssa's 1st birthday. Well, the moment I got the bad news and the 1st thing in my mind is to sms my very closest friends (of coz the Pinky...:-)) And yes, everyone was shocked. Dia punya nasib la tu...